A Woman's Lifestyle and Wellbeing:
The Power of Being Positive
I'm going to start this blog with perhaps, something not so positive (ironic I know) but it is necessary, as many women, including myself, can sometimes struggle to be positive, thinking that we are not able to do something, whether its going for a dream job interview, having the courage to actually take the trip to the country we always wanted to visit, even taking up class, language course, etc. Why? because we don't think we can do it, for various reasons ( I would say excuses) right ?
Because our mind its so powerful, can sometimes lead us to think all the negatives, instead of the positives in a situation, we focus so much on what could go wrong, what would people think, we can even doubt our own abilities, and that can lead to something even worse, it could actually make us feel stressed, anxious, nervous and with low self-esteem, that ultimately makes us loose valuable opportunities.
I had experience a situation where I was feeling just like that, I only had to talk about an issue, express my views, reasons, exchange ideas, and accept whatever outcome (hoping always that it would be a positive one) but then with all the anticipation, pressure I put on myself, overthinking and suddenly all the negative thoughts blurred my mind, In a way that hasn't happened before.
I consider myself to be a woman who always focus on the positive, in every situation. I do like to take on a project, even if I might not be so experienced in the field, but if the opportunity is there, I'll take it, because I know, I'll learn as I go along, I'll do my best, and I will put 110% of my effort and motivation to achieve that end result.
For example: Little did I know that I would end up modeling for the longest catwalk in the UK years ago, I don't consider myself a model, I was one of the last people to audition, and was just for fun. When I found out I was selected, I was shocked, and I did hesitate whether I should do it, having absolutely no experience. But I had to take the opportunity, it was there, and I focussed in all the positive benefits I would gain from it, because I do like to learn about events management, and business in general, I thought that it would be a great opportunity to gain knowledge and experience. And I did, one year I modelled, learnt a lot, the next year I wanted to be more involved in the managing, and behind the scenes, learning about the industry, hospitality, the business, and how it all comes together when organizing events, and I did just that. ( I will write another blog on this!)
The point is, if I hadn't thought of all the positives of the situation I wouldn't have that experience and gained all the knowledge.
Why did I focussed on the negatives then?
Going back to the situation where the negative thoughts took over my mind, to this date, I wonder myself why? ..why did I let it happen? how did I bombarded myself with negative thoughts? why I couldn't speak ? why I wasn't able to feel confident enough to handle the situation, in a positive and graceful manner.
It's not like I am afraid to express myself, all the opposite!! I can be in a event with business owners, diplomats, etc, and confidently express my views, opinions and ideas. I did once talk to a friend who was starting his business, about how he can marketed it, 3 years on, to this date he uses the words and idea I gave him. I can be humbly proud of that!
I can stand in front of a group of people and give a talk about a subject, prepare and organize a presentation, I can deal and negotiate with people when I have to, whether it is for social media/blog collaboration or events, etc.
I'm also a dancer ( you can check it out if you wish) so before the performance, there is the events negotiation, planning, logistics of the venue, organizing etc. And dealing with all the unpredictable things that can happen at an event. Plus I do have to feel confident to put on my dance costume, smile and dance in front of many people. Sometimes representing other countries like Colombia (I'am from Bolivia) yes I do like to challenge myself to do something different and gain knowlegde.
I "should" be able to face anything, having mentioned everything above, but the truth is sometimes we do struggle, many women would relate, when I say: that sometimes it can be too much for our mind, the stress, the nervousness, anxiety, pressure, etc. it can be draining.
I reckon that I've let my mind focussed on the negatives in a particular situation, because it was very, very, very important for me, I put a lot of pressure on myself to do the right thing, and I did struggle .
Our mind its so powerful that can take control of us sometimes, but we can, and we must ( I shall say) learn to control our thoughts, only ourselves can do that.
You Have The Power to be Positive
We must always remember that we are capable of doing everything, and anything we want. We have the power to control our thoughts, to think positive, to challenge ourselves, to achieve our goals. And that can only be done if we think that we CAN do it, instead of "I'm not sure". Only ourselves can change the way we think.
As women, whether working mums, single mums, independent women, it doesn't matter where we come from, where we live, what we do, etc. We might not be in an ideal place, moment in our lifes/careers etc. But remember, you have the heart, passion, drive, patience, motivation and determination to achieve what you want.
I would love to launch a project next year, which I have been working on years back, gaining experience, confidence, and base on the positive response and feedback I received so far, it motivates me even more! I know that nothing can be "perfect", but its how we adapt our mind to deal with everything.
Some people may say that I wont be able to do that, the market its too crowded, there are people already doing that, etc. But I know that I CAN do it, if I have to face any challenges, I'll learn along the way ;)
Having goals, determination and positive thinking, can improve our lifestyle and wellbeing.
By being positive, we can inspire others to have more self-love, self-esteem and to be a better person everyday.
Think positive, don't miss out on an opportunity.
